I was not looking forward to Christmas. Here I was in the English midlands, seven months pregnant and unable to fly home. Even if I had been allowed to fly we had no money for airfares. With very little money but with the arrogance of youth we had decided to take a chance and moved to England back in the summer of that year. My husband was offered a place in an English university as a mature student – this was the 1970s and Irish universities didn’t offer such places. We accepted the place and I decided that I would support both of us financially while he studied. Then I became pregnant. Undaunted we stuck to our plan but now it was Christmas, we were barely scraping by and had none of the trapping of Christmas, no tree, very little money and a tiny flat.
On the day before Christmas Eve we received a card from my mother-in-law and inside it was a £5 note. This was riches. We discussed what to do with it, pay a bill, put it away for a rainy day or blow it all on food. We threw caution to the wind and decided to blow it. We had become vegetarians by necessity but now we would buy a piece of steak for Christmas Day, and we would also buy chocolate and some fruit and vegetables. On Christmas Eve we walked into town and carefully spent the £5. As we walked home we discussed how to cook the steak, should we just fry it? We had enough extra ingredients to try our hand at Beef Strogonoff, or maybe…… and then we were hailed from across the road. It was my husband’s class mate Rashid. We stopped, he was Lebanese and told us how much he worried about and missed his family in civil war Beirut. Come to us for dinner said Frank. I looked at him and mentally cut the steak into three. Rashid was delighted and accepted and as he walked away he called back “I will bring a chicken, done the Lebanese way”. Well, I thought, the chicken will be good and will help stretch things out. As we got closer to home we met another Lebanese man we knew slightly, Mahmood, by now my husband was delighted with the idea of steak and chicken and so he asked Mahmood if he would come to dinner. Mahmood said he didn’t keep Christmas but he would love to come. Mentally I cut the steak into pieces on a skewer. As the afternoon wore on Frank lost the run of himself. He decided to ask an elderly lady who lived alone and whom we had come to know. She accepted immediately. Then there was an American couple who lived upstairs and Aiden a Turkish guy in his class who hadn’t enough money to go back to his family in London for Christmas. Aiden knew someone else who was alone and as night fell I realised I didn’t know exactly how many people we had invited. I made a small beef stroganoff with the steak and hoped that people would bring something with them but in the end I fell into bed, exhausted but too tired to miss my family and the trappings of Christmas.
On Christmas morning we put our small kitchen table in the middle of the sitting room and I tried to make it as festive as possible. I made a tablecloth out of the wrapping paper of the presents we had received from my parents and family in Ireland. We found a candle in the back of a cupboard and with the strategic use of some greenery from the garden of the flat decided that the place looked good. We didn’t have enough cutlery for everyone but decided we would manage.
The American couple arrived bearing a big pot of soup and a chocolate concoction. More importantly they were used to student living and so they also brought down two chairs. We didn’t have enough soup bowls but I decided people could have soup in mugs. When the doorbell rang Frank and I went to answer it together. Outside stood Mahmood and Rashid, they clearly didn’t know each other. Rashid was holding the most gorgeous cooked chicken, the aroma was exotic and I couldn’t wait to taste chicken done in the Lebanese way. Frank invited them in while introducing them – Mahmood looked at him and said “Do you not know I am Muslim?” Of course we knew he was Muslim but we didn’t mind. I could see he was angry and Rashid wasn’t exactly delighted either. Mahmood looked at the two of us “I am Muslim, he (pointing at Rashid) is Christian. We are on opposite sides of the civil war. I cannot come in if he is there too”. Frank began to speak but my big worry was that if Rashid went, the chicken would go with him. I told Frank to bring Rashid and the chicken inside. Then I spoke to Mahmood, apologising for putting him in this position, but I said, it was Christmas, a festival of sharing, if he would come in I would speak to Rashid and see if differences could be put aside for the day. Rashid was a very quiet man, he looked crushed but he held out the chicken to me and told me it was stuffed with rice and fruit. “Please”, I said, “won’t you stay?” I have explained to Mahmood that Christmas is a time of sharing and I think he will stay if you will agree. The two men spoke in Arabic for a few minutes and then it was obvious that they were staying. Gradually others arrived, Mrs. P brought a big trifle and wine, a friend of Aiden’s brought lamb and very soon our small sitting room was full and there was far too much food to fit on our kitchen table. This was immediately resolved by Frank taking two of the men into our bedroom where they proceeded to take the door off the hinges. Some of the chemistry tomes which Frank was studying were used to prop up the table and a clean sheet served as a table cloth. Since I was pregnant I got a chair and so did Mrs P our elderly neighbour. Everyone else had to shift for themselves, sitting on the floor, the small couch and a couple of chairs. The soup was delicious, hot and warming and between dishes, mugs and cups everyone got some. Then the feast began, the chicken from Lebanon, salads, ham, curried lamb, and lost somewhere in the middle my beef strogonoff. Stories of Christmas back home in Turkey, Ireland and elsewhere were told. Our two Lebanese friends told us of happier times in their home country when everyone joined in each others’ celebrations regardless of religion. From time to time we had to wash dishes and cutlery to allow people to have more food but the fun and the joking about who was eating what and in what order only added to the occasion. Wine was poured, someone had brought some beer, there was more than enough for everyone. I can never remember whether I got some of the steak but I know that by the end of the afternoon everyone had eaten and there was enough left over to feed myself and Frank for the next few days. Gradually people went home, thanking us for a wonderful Christmas meal little realising that they had saved us.
Margarita McCarthy





